It's not a gay thing, it's a guy thing!
Straight Guise is about straight men who have sex with men (SMSM) who question their sexual orientation and are not gay. It is about the many reasons men engage in sexual contact with other men that are not about a homosexual identity.
Straight men cannot become gay and gay men cannot become straight. Gay men are not gay due to complicated childhood experiences such as sexual abuse or problematic parenting. Science is increasingly pointing to the evidence that gay men are born that way.
There is a significant difference between sexual identity, sexual behavior and sexual fantasy and Straight Guise helps teach what these are.
Become the man you were meant to be!
Written from Dr. Joe Kort's perspective as an openly gay psychotherapist who has counseled thousands of sexually confused men over the years, Straight Guise shows how this phenomenon crosses all ethnicities and cultures. Not a week goes by when I don’t receive distressed emails or phone calls from heterosexual men who worry they might be gay and from wives who have discovered their husbands engaged in gay hookups and relationships or exploring gay porn.
Written from Dr. Joe Kort's perspective as an openly gay psychotherapist who has counseled thousands of sexually confused men over the years, Straight Guise intends to help readers just as I have helped my clients, first by separating the two types of men in the world: There are men who are gay and bisexual and then there are heterosexual men who seek out sex with other men.
The difference is one of sexual preference versus sexual identity. Sexual Preferences are about various desires, positions and fantasies one has whereas sexual identity is about how one self-identities in terms of straight, gay, or bisexual.
Straight Guise is not about Reparative Therapy which is harmful. It also is not a site about only pathologizing straight men who have sex with men. It is focused on understanding and differentiating sexual orientaion, sexual acting out normal sexual interest heterosexual men have in sexual contact with other men.
IMHO, if it walks like a duck and it quacks like a duck and it looks like a duck, it's a duck. If a man has sex with other men (except in certain situations like prison where sex with men becomes a survival technique) he is gay. Period.
It's malarkey like this that makes gay husbands feel like what they have done is okay. This man writes for Psychology Today, which just made me re-think my opinion of that magazine. No respectable psychologist buys into this "sex with men for the heck of it" philosophy.
I agree totally with you!! That is absolutely ridiculous!!
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