How Married Guys Get Caught

The following article is from: Bi MEN NETWORK. It's intended to help men keep from getting caught. But it's also great info for the wife who suspects her husband might be cheating. Read on, sisters, and take notes. I got a lot of info on my ex from many of the things he mentions here.

"HOW MARRIED GUYS GET CAUGHT!"

by Mark

I had occasion the other day to consider how easy it is for married bisexual guys, or even heterosexual for that matter, to be caught by their wives after a little foray into bed with someone else. I have always tried to make sure that I am very aware of actions or any other form of evidence that would indicate that I have been "sipping from another cup," but every now and then it is easy to slip, and ohhh so easy to get caught.

I have been with my wife since we were both 21, and we know each other so damn well that any aberration or deviation is instantly apparent. I make it hugely worse of course by being a dreadful creature of habit; it goes with my job, which is based on systems and procedures that follow a careful routine, so it is inbred that I am pretty damn consistent. My wife is a bloody smart lady, so not much gets by her. I never underestimate her, so I was really annoyed at myself for a slip-up that required a quick recovery.

In this particular instance, I had been on a business trip to London, and I was fortunate that it coincided with a married mate who was also there on business. We had an incredible blast - not just the great sex, but the ability to head out for drinks and dinner together; to sit in the bar of the hotel and enjoy each other's company; to wake up together after some major cum unloading, and shower together before having breakfast together. That was all fine--different country, no one knows you or cares anyway, secure private room--all fine along with a nightly call to the family, and I was reachable at the hotel if anything came up; so where did I slip up?

I was commando for 2 days running--no need for underwear while my buddy was with me, and I enjoy the feeling of my cock moving around while I am in my suit. It is not unknown for me to be commando in jeans on the weekend, but during a series of Board Meetings in London? Very difficult for my wife to give credibility to THAT scenario. So when I unpacked after returning from the trip, I stupidly returned the clean boxers to my underwear drawer, and threw an inadequate number into the laundry basket to equate to the number of days I had been away. She picked it up in a shot! I knew I hadn't been gone long enough to have had hotel laundry done, one escape excuse, so I had to say that I hadn't finished unpacking yet, and there was still some laundry in my case! I got away with it, but cursed myself for being so stupid.

Over the years of being a member of websites like the Bi Men Network, I have heard many shared experiences on how husbands have been caught by their wives. In some cases I have thought that the situations were dumb enough, that the guys needed to be caught to bring it out in the open. Other events have been tragic embarrassments, where too many people have been hurt needlessly. We all live in this situation of conflicting priorities, where it is easy in following your nature to leave a trail that others can see and be exposed.

For those of us not as technically savvy as others, computers are the greatest villain, and it was computer usage that brought me the closest I ever want to get to a marriage breakdown. Since that time, I have been meticulous about never using the home computer for any of this stuff. I know of guys who had "chat" on the homes computers, but hadn't changed the automatic settings. Children or wives then logged on only to have an IM from "bigcockinBoisieID" pop up with a raunchy profile photo that said it all. Web Site histories are impossible to explain when the site name is "Horny College footballers with massive cocks!"

Guys have equally been caught by having condoms or lube when they don't use them with their wives. Wives cleaning under beds have found flotsam discarded in the throes of passionate sex.

Messages on cell phones; worse yet automatic redial on cell or house phones that recalls a number that was best left to history.

Then there is always being in a mall with our wife when some flouncy, clearly gay guy bounces up to you and says "Hi!" I restrict myself to married guys, and have frequently encountered them in malls, so the hardest thing there is to explain is how you know each other.

I am sure that we all know examples of how guys have been caught, and I often think that we might help each other more on this site by sharing these anecdotes, along with how to overcome these situations. I know we all get off on discussing docking, and whether to swallow cum, and how to spot a bisexual guy at a block party, but some of the best advice we can give each other is how to cover your tracks.

FINIS

Mark
Our thanks to Mark once again!

STEWART (Mac) McCLOUD
Founder and President
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Guys Like Him

Here's another blog I found.

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Guys Like Me:  For married men exploring their sexual interests in guys


He writes:

I feel so alive with Jake, ageless and without any pressing concerns. Then he leaves and I confront myself in the mirror and remember how much of my life has already been laid like a rigid mortared brick wall in a pattern of cells and chambers from which it seems I will never break free. And why break out really? There is comfort and history and predictable stimulation within the elegant tasteful chambers I have created. What lies outside is as likely to be barren soil and rocky shoals sprayed with icy storms, as it is to be that imagined Nirvana.


The Eden I seek is not just sex with men in the bright sunlight of openness. That ability to have sex with men, and real emotional ties, is a manifestation of freedom. The freedom to be sexual with men is the current alluring prospect, but not in and of itself the golden chalice. The Chalice is to finally feel resolved. The Golden Cup is to calmly and proudly feel at peace with my intellect and spirit and body and the relationships with other people around me. In that new mental and emotional place, then I will be free to act on my desires, and while sex with men is a most immediate compelling desire, there are other desires too.

So while Jake and I ravish one another in a place of infinite possibilities, I keep returning to the chamber I made and live in when he goes home. Can I escape this masonry enclosed fate I have so artfully constructed to date? Jake and I know and accept that we will live this moment by moment, but there is an end point when I leave this town, or my wife moves down here. We are under no illusion this is for a long haul.

I feel ecstatic and when I am with him. Then in the periods between his visits I reflect and the picture is not good. I can go through these nearly violent body shaking spinouts and wail and weep at the sense I have divined this fate, and that the time is over to make big changes. In a comment a month ago, fan of casey wondered, have I looked into the future, and envisioned the inevitable conversation I may have with my wife Anonymous wrote in a prior post, I should write clearly and say what I want. Do I want to tell my wife I need men? I have been looking more beyond that point of talking to her, to what might motivate me to have that talk, or not. To ask for permission to have men, is to believe you can find them and that will bring the meaning you lack into your life. That is a huge expectation and I simply don’t have the imagination or self-confidence to believe it is possible. Beneath all, for such a liberal and accepting guy when it comes to others, I hold no positive images of aging gay lovers or partners.

I started this blog with the simple question, can I be married and have sex with men?

This blog, too, is littered with erotic photos of men.

Let me answer the question for you, blogger.

Yes, you can be married and have sex with men.

Now I'll ask you a question. Is it right for you to do this to your wife?

And I'll answer.

No.

What's YOUR answer?